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Some Rules, Tips, Suggestions & Thoughts...for those interested in Swinging 

Involvement in the swinging lifestyle has been experiencing incredible growth as many couples and singles decide to relax their inhibitions and explore their sexuality. Attitudes toward sexuality are always changing as society changes. But there are rules to involvement in the "lifestyle" as well as some definite do's and  don'ts that you need to know before you get involved. Rules and common courtesy  help to smooth what can be a fun adult experience.

By no means, do we believe we can cover  this area completely. In fact, different societies, cultures and locations have variations. However, we have taken the time to compose a few rules, tips, suggestions and thoughts that most will find to be common in the lifestyle.
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The Golden Rule

Pushiness is one thing that many newbies in the lifestyle may not understand. There is a big difference between showing that you are interested and being pushy. In the lifestyle, the golden rule is "no" means "no".

Anyone may say "no" for any reason, at any time, even if you are in the middle of a swinging encounter and have changed your mind and want to stop it right there! If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say "no". Do not jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with the lifestyle, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will.

You should never be afraid to say "no" to anything that does not make you or your partner comfortable. Having regrets the next day is not what the lifestyle is about. Everyone has different limits and interests. Play needs to be communicated and interest must be mutual.

The friendliest way is to say, "Oh no thank you, but thanks for asking". No one should be pressured or coerced under any circumstances. Swinging is an individual’s personal choice and a disinterested person need merely say "No, thank you." "No thank you" means NO.

If someone says "no" to you don't be offended. It does not mean that you are inferior. No is an expression of the desire of the other person. It may also mean that right now is not a good time but later may be a possibility. Those familiar with the swing world accept that everyone has the right to say "no" to anyone at anytime. It should be done with a simple "no, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that can and usually does, cause problems and pain.
 

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Honesty, Jealousy and Respect

Honesty is one of the basic requirements for enjoyment in the lifestyle. This means honesty between you and your partner, as well as honesty with others in the lifestyle. Swinging or sexual openness with others, requires a high degree of trust. Although sexuality is very normal, most people feel a need for security and trust during sexual play. Honesty creates a level of trust that provides for the openness needed for true sexual fulfillment. By being honest you avoid misunderstandings and create a better awareness of needs, wants and desires. 

Honesty with each other is crucial. Deal with jealousy head on, it is a normal reaction. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth jeopardizing. The lifestyle will enhance a strong relationship by bringing up feelings such as jealousy.  Use this opportunity  to deepen you level of communication with your partner, it will bring you closer.

Always treat one another with respect. As my grandmother used to say, "treat others as you wish to be treated." I sometimes wonder if she was a swinger too! Respect for others helps to build on the level of trust and security that honesty creates. Honesty and respect go hand in hand in the lifestyle. If you are rude or judgmental about others they will not open up to you. After all this is supposed to be good clean adult fun.

Be aware that there are insecurities, uncertainties and fears in the lifestyle. Kindness, understanding and sensitivity show signs of respect. And remember respect is not just about others...it involves your partner too! Guidelines should be set and communicated. Following those guidelines demonstrates respect . 
Don’t try to talk others into changing the rules.

If you question what may or may not be acceptable, look for body language. There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of your partner and others who you are involved with, it will give you additional information.  Be sensitive and you will know what makes them comfortable, happy and excited.

 

Alcohol and Drugs

If you need alcohol or drugs to be involved in the lifestyle or to swing with others then you should consider that the lifestyle is not for you. Unfortunately, society tends to lump sexual freedom in with alcohol and drug abuse. You will find that this is not the truth in most lifestyle circles. 

For many, a few drinks help them to relax. We are talking a few drinks, not falling down drunk or so many drinks that you would do something that is not acceptable without a few drinks. Too many drinks will not only make you look bad to others, it will probably affect your sexual abilities. If you have to over indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle.

Use of illegal drugs or abuse of legal drugs are frowned upon by most in the lifestyle. First of all, most swingers want no involvement in illegal activities. They are here to have adult fun and open sexuality not to break laws. Also, for the same reasons as alcohol abuse, most want no part of others who use or abuse drugs.

Consenting  Adults

Another rule of swinging is "consenting". All involved must agree that they are mutually interested in what they have to offer to each other. Swinging is an individual lifestyle choice and like all choices, no one is ever under any obligation to participate. If you are rejected, do not take offense. It happens to everyone at one time or another for one reason or another. Do not take personal offense. There are others who will be interested. Rejection is a very personal thing, and it’s almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected.

Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself if you or your partner are not comfortable. The lifestyle is about sexual enjoyment, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

Remember that  sexual activity in the lifestyle is strictly a physical & recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Always let your partner know she/he is number one. Arrive together,  and pay attention to each other first. Take time to set the mood, create security and then develop sexual tension. And always leave together. Honor any and all prior understandings & rules you have made between each other, and be sure to communicate with each other openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings.

There is and should be a strong responsibility for consenting adults to protect ourselves and our partners. With concerns of sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, aids, yeast infection, etc., the use of condoms should not be considered offensive. Those not willing to take simple precautions such as condoms, are acting selfishly and irresponsibly. By using a condom there is no accusation of being unclean. It is simply a method of helping to protect all involved.

Discretion

Society often does not accept or understand the lifestyle. Sharing details, levels of involvement or talking about others without there permission is unacceptable. You have the right to demand absolute discretion. Additionally, you must be willing to provide the same in return. Discretion is paramount in this lifestyle! Privacy is imperative!!! Never, ever discuss details inappropriately. Everything you do, everything you see, MUST remain private.

Swinging is about having a good time. Live some fantasies explore your sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes on as well as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of humor but be careful about what you discuss with others.

Swingers are dedicated family people, or committed couples, who have successfully separated sex from love, not love from sex. Sex within the framework of marriage or commitment is a moving, emotional, and spiritual experience of immeasurable beauty and excitement. Sex in a swinging situation is a stimulating, satisfying "change of pace" that satisfies the libido and curiosity. Recreational sex with friends is satisfying, exciting, and enjoyable because when you are in love with your mate, your experiences and theirs are one. However, there is a place and time to have discussions. Never risk exposing yourself or others. This is a very personal and private choice...keep it that way.

What Should I Expect?

You should expect tolerance and respect. The same will also be expected of you. You don’t know what someone is about, unless you speak with them. Social skill is extremely important to success in the lifestyle. Swingers usually want to meet others so don't be shy to introduce yourself. Nothing should  be expected  or anticipated from conversation. If you wish to find others with the same interests this is normally how it starts. You ability to be non-pushy and successfully communicate your interests will dictate how far you can fulfill your fantasies.

At meets, parties and events you should expect to dance and socialize with may people. Many people will come only to do just that. There is something very liberating about being with like-minded individuals, dancing, dressing sexy, flirting, all in very sexually charged atmosphere without pressure. The goal of these functions is to provide a safe, pressure free environment, to fuel the passion or satisfy the curiosity. The choice is yours to hook-up or not. Just have fun.

If you are too shy to introduce yourself to a couple or single woman, feel free to ask the function hosts for an introduction. It is totally normal to be nervous, and actually, even though others may seem totally cool, everyone has some sort of nervous anticipation about meeting new people. Remember what it was like when you met your partner for the first time? Well it's the same thing. 

At some functions it may seem like everyone knows each other. In reality, they really don't. Some people  are outgoing and know what to expect. Some may be very comfortable to get right to it by chatting it up. There are even some who return for every function and get to know each other. But remember, they are all there to meet new people, so don't be shy. You will be welcomed with a smile, a warm and friendly "Hello" and most likely introduced to some more people.

While attending any lifestyle event, if you see two couples talking for a while and what looks like they are making progress, wait your turn. Even if you know one of the couples never push your way into the mix. Stop by introduce yourself and possibly hope to be invited to stay or make a connection for next time, but never push yourself in and another couple out. There is always going to be a next time so don’t rush it and jeopardize friendships. 

When you do connect with others and you feel there is mutual interest see if there is an interest in more than talk. Ask if going someplace more private or meeting later might be a good idea. When you are together, sit close, start flirting or kissing you partner, this will usually get things going the ball rolling. The rest will happen naturally, but remember, don't force anything and be respectful.

Now, if all went well and you had a sexual encounter, don't make assumptions for next time. You should never expect that the next time you meet there will be another encounter. Approach each meeting with no assumptions for any kind of play, flirting and even kissing and feeling up on the other couple. You will find that this will create more trust and enjoyment with the lifestyle friends you develop.

Some Thoughts about House Parties

Many lifestyle people enjoy entertaining at their home. A "house party" is a form of social gathering where "like-minded" people get together at a home. There is normally food, drink, maybe entertainment and often sexual activity. When you receive an invitation to a house party you have been invited to a most intimate place and this shows a level of trust, respect and interest by the host. It is important that you respond to all invitations. It is simply not polite to only respond to an invitation only if you plan to attend. Treat swingers with the same level of respect, etiquette and social courtesy that is common in all social gatherings. Call or write to say yes or no to an invitation or you may not be invited again.

When attending a house party remember, it is not a business or a club. So, never arrive empty handed. Before you arrive, during your response to the invitation, ask if there is something you can bring. A lot of work goes into house parties and an offer assistance or bringing something for the event shows that you realize the effort. Additionally, whatever you personally are going to need should be brought with you. Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie, robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc. If you plan to stay over, sleeping bags or blankets and pillows, may be required. If you are unsure, throw a few extra items in the trunk of your car  and bring them in as needed.

When you arrive at the house party consider freshening up. It is amazing what a drive, quick snack or drink can do to undo your appearance and  cleanliness. Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or bad breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive. Remember, you may have the opportunity to get very close with others...do you have broccoli in your teeth?

If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "no, thank you," simply accept  and move  on. No amount of sweet talk or coercion will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say "no" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies with those who  are mutually interested. Explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.

Click below to become a member! This is a one time charge to your favorite credit card or bank account. Your card is available to to picked up at any of our functions or we will mail it directly to you! It's your choice. 

The One Year Membership fee is only $40

IMPORTANT: We are a couples and single females adults ONLY party group. We DO NOT honor any membership card purchased by a single male (or attends as a single male) or anyone under the age of 21. All membership fees are non-refundable and non-transferable.
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